More often than not, people with a common destination in mind tend to think of taking the same path towards it. They see others reaching it and get convinced that all they have to do to get there themselves is do what the successful have done.
The arrows all point to the same direction, convincing many that there is but one established way of doing things. “If others can do it, so can I” becomes misconstrued to mean “If others can do it this way and make it, so can I.” They join the mainstream, the popular, the “safe” and the status quo where the pioneers have made their mark and throngs of conformists have already flocked towards.
I believe we are all better than that. That each of us can look within us and find something only we can offer, something that we can use to reach our goals without having to look at how others do it and pulling a monkey-see-monkey-do.
There is value in refusing to just go with the flow, about resisting the bandwagon, about veering away from blind groupthink.
In sitting ourselves down and assessing things from our perspective and standards, not others’. In considering channels other than the beaten path.
In a world where every industry is saturated, governed by a silently acknowledged hierarchy, controlled by networks and machinery, it would be naive to think that taking the alternative route—the best one depending on our identity, values, belief system, skill set, and unique characteristics—can guarantee success a hundred percent.
What it does, however, is guarantee that we would never end up compromising who we are and giving up what we believe in for the sake of making it.
It guarantees that whatever and however long it takes, we would have a better chance of getting to our destination much happier and content with the path we’ve chosen to take.
And whether there are others with us or none, we would be able to say, “Go ahead, everyone else. I’ll make my way through this other route.
See you at the end of this tunnel, whoever gets there first.” 🙂
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